Why Being True To Yourself Is Very Important

Finally, my view on being yourself is changed... Actually, I can say that I have grown and accepted some harsh truths that I was ignoring till now... 

So when I decided to change myself and grow, I started picking out the habits that I hated in myself, and I took all of them and compared them to others, and changed them… so that I could remove all my weaknesses.. 

But the truth is that I was removing my strengths.. 

From childhood, I have been an emotional person, a hopeless romantic, and I like doing crazy stuff… like dancing on the roads with my friends just bcz I am happy or the road looks or feels good to me,... but I didn’t do that for last year and a half bcz I felt that I am bad and foolish for doing so.. But that wasn’t the case.. It was never the case.. 

So when I remove those aspects of my life I felt a hollow inside of me.. Bcz it is normal for me to go out and click a lot of pictures of random stuff and then edit them and post them on my socials.. Bcz I feel happy seeing them, and I want others to feel happy too.. But I stopped doing that bcz I decided it was stupid and it wasn’t of any use… on a daily basis it was okay.. It didn’t impact me significantly in the least beat, but in the long term, I was feeling so sad.. It was not bcz of the photos.. But rather bcz I chose to not see the beauty around me, which I naturally do all the time.. 

Also wondering my mind and thinking about a lot of things, and doing a lot of variety of things and hustling for them, makes me happy.. And I like singing, dancing, running, playing instruments, drawing, creating, tennis, boxing, learning new languages, decorating house.. All these I really do love.. But I stopped doing them, bcz it felt useless.. And I thought I should rather focus on doing only one important thing that matters.. 

This was a big thing that I did wrong.. I definitely should work relentlessly on the things that I want to do, but then I should also keep some free time to do what makes me alive.. The reason to live is being yourself, and making me happy.. 

I came to the conclusion that all the things I naturally like and am I, are stereotypically girly things, and in this patriarchal society girly things are termed as bad, so unknowingly I decided that I am bad, and I wanted to change.. And I wanted to be more manly.. But I am not.. 

Working hard, studying, and earning money are good.. But I also love, walking in nature, sitting in a park, playing games, eating nice foods, dressing up nicely, writing my own novel, singing, dancing, creating, drawing, making things beautiful, and making real connections with people.. And I want to keep those close by… 

I love wondering about the beauty of the world.. And I love looking at the world with my own eyes and feeling all the beautiful things.. I will spend money on flowers and paints, instruments, and books.. I know it may sometimes feel stupid…. But I must never leave myself.. I will hold onto myself.. No matter what…

so here is the list of the reasons you should never lose yourself-

1. values- it is very important to stick to your values, no matter what they are.. if they are inherited from parents and ancestors or they are exclusively created by you, but your values are what give you life.. they make sure you are choosing the right thing in your life.. they make sure you are doing your best.. bcz growth and hard work is tough, and there would be many times when you feel tired and restless.. at those moments the only thing that can keep you up is your values... there a reason behind why you are doing things. never lose that.. 
2. uniqueness- if you decide your way of being is not good, then you change yourself to the way you think is right and practical.. it may feel more productive or more appropriate.. but you would lose your uniqueness... bcz your way of viewing the world is important to the world, to the people around you, and for the wellbeing of the humankind in general.. so don't force yourself to be generic.. 
3. missing out on life- when you force yourself to be something else.. it will never be sustainable and one day you have to come back to yourself, and you will do that when you can't hold on anymore.. but in the meantime, you will miss out a lot of opportunities, and the chances of being happy.. all the ways you could have seen and enjoyed the beauty of life.. 
4. loss of groundedness- we all need a root to belong to.. it doesn't necessarily have to be inherited, it can be chosen.. but we need to look back and know who we are when we are flying in the sky.. bcz if we don't we would never know who we are.. the adaptability and not having an identity is very different.. so we must have a character to look back on and spread our branches from.. so if you take a false character, then the tree of your life will not sustain, bcz the root won't go deep enough to sustain the branches.. keeping and developing deep roots is the first step to grow a tree..
5. depression- long-term negligence of your true self and pretending to be someone else will make you feel like an imposter and will lead to various mental health problems.. that will lead to depression, anxiety, and panic..

so these are some basic reasons why you should never lose yourself in amidst whatever tough situation is going on in your life.. always be true to yourself.. and try to get better and grow.. 

be the best version of yourself..

all the best..