Adity Sanyal

 so recently I was consuming some YouTube videos, which were released at the time of COVID-19 I think.. I didn’t come across them.. but the video was about Red flags and Green flags.. so I thought about writing it in this article.. (bcz tbh I don’t have anything else to write about) there are many things that seem problematic in American society.. I don’t know if it is the result of being rich or having all the opportunities of life in their hands.. but there is something really wrong with people there.. first of all, over-emphasis on gender expression.. people are mocking humanity and also each other just to talk shit.. there is no meaning in what they are talking about.. I am not saying people should do what everyone else is doing, but just that, there should be a limit to nonsense.. like you can be an eagle as a gender, but what value does your eagleness bring to society.. then why are you focusing on it??? what does identifying as an eagle or tiger have any value to the gene...

    Losing him was blue, like I'd never known Missing him was dark gray, all alone Forgetting him was like trying to know   Somebody you never met   But loving him was red   Loving him was red This is what the 20s feel like to me.. The feeling of the sun on my skin, the thrill of not knowing your future, the job you are going to do, the thing you will spend your life doing, the person you are gonna spend it with.. Your 20s is the time when we make new friends and the old friends grow apart.. And we learn new things... If we divide our life into seasons then the 20s are the summer.. It is the time of hard work, tiredness, the excitement to be in the beach and have a nice basketball match.. The sweat and heat, and all the exhaustion.. But after all this, the next day feels even more exciting to live.. The new hopes, new dreams, new excitement... When we enter our 20s finishing college, or nearly getting over it, we think, we are adults for long enough already.. Fe...

Finally, my view on being yourself is changed... Actually, I can say that I have grown and accepted some harsh truths that I was ignoring till now...  So when I decided to change myself and grow, I started picking out the habits that I hated in myself, and I took all of them and compared them to others, and changed them… so that I could remove all my weaknesses..  But the truth is that I was removing my strengths..  From childhood, I have been an emotional person, a hopeless romantic, and I like doing crazy stuff… like dancing on the roads with my friends just bcz I am happy or the road looks or feels good to me,... but I didn’t do that for last year and a half bcz I felt that I am bad and foolish for doing so.. But that wasn’t the case.. It was never the case..  So when I remove those aspects of my life I felt a hollow inside of me.. Bcz it is normal for me to go out and click a lot of pictures of random stuff and then edit them and post them on my socials.. Bcz I f...

Striving for the future and thinking about the past is one of the most common things people spend their life in... Although it is good to strive for the future, as thinking about the future helps us in planning thinking in advance and also helps us in preparing for what is coming, and thinking about the past helps us to learn from the past lessons and the things we did or experienced help us navigate the world better, but we never live in future or past... From the time we are born, we have many experiences, personal, emotional, professional, social, public, etc... These experiences help us grow, and they give us an idea of what to expect in the future and what is the probability of happening it... Also past feelings and emotions help us grow, and we learn to manage our emotions better... Past works as a review sheet of our performance in life, which we review from time to time to understand our growth and things we achieved or lost... Thinking like that, past experiences are really im...

Life can sometimes be hard and we go through life trying to make sense of life and negotiate with what is happening around us and make life a little better... But we stubble and we fall.. We go through many things happening with us... Trauma, accidents, blessings, opportunities, and pressure and problems... We come to the negative but necessary aspects of life... Depression, anxiety, trauma, fear, jealousy, and anger... We get scared of these things, and we try to figure these things out... We either try to find a solution for our not feeling good or we completely ignore it...  This is the way many of us live there lives... As focusing on the problems we can search for therapy and other processes with are clinical that can help us get out of the feelings of sadness or worthlessness, and we want to feel better... We go to psychologists, we try counseling, we do our homework, we journal every day, and we keep track of our life every day... We do all the things that we are told to do....

Wrong people should be punished and truth and honesty must be praised.. Isn’t it right and isn’t the eternal truth from the beginning of humanity?? From the day humans created civilization and society the concept of honesty and wickedness was always present as also the concept of punishment.. Punishment is a method to create and maintain order in society.. Society is always upgrading, i.e. it is evolving and creating new and useful things for humans, and growing, technically, physically, and scientifically.. But at the same time, it is degenerating itself.. As much as society spreads and gets bigger and wiser, at the same time the increase of the ways to harm and end society.. The more we are making our walls stronger to protect ourselves, the more we are getting vulnerable to the possible end and chaos.. But we are humans, and we will try our best to believe the things that are present in society as a way to protect us and anything precious to us, we will make laws, create a justic...

We need to pay price for everything we want in our life.. If we want something nice to buy, a house, clothes, car, accessories, electronics whatever it may be, we need to pay the appropriate price for that… Many people don’t want a lot of stuff in their life, because of various reasons, like minimalism and they want to live a simplistic life.. I am not one of them though.. I love things, I love materials, and I want love.. I want people to love me and think how cool and great I am.. I want everybody to look at me and think how amazing I am and they can never reach me.. I want people in the future after 100 years to think of me and still stay in awe of me.. They should consider me a legend and a person who is immortal and have a legacy.. And I also have to pay price for that.. When we choose life, we have to pay price for the choice of life we want.. People who don't want too much, can relax and enjoy a little more because they have to pay less… But this price is not actually mo...

Feeling lost, life getting out of our hands, hopelessness, we all felt that sometimes or the other.. But these things are more common in some people than others, which leads to anxiety and depression, and other mental health problems along with various physical world failures.. Why do some people have this thought continuously when others don’t.. There are two types of people: These kinds of people when born they somehow taught that their life is out of their hands, and they have to accept anything that happens to them.. These kids believe what are they taught, and most of the time, they don’t work hard or have big dreams as they believe they just don’t have any option or chance to do anything other than what is been given to them.. The 2nd kind of people is the ones who are taught that their life is in their own hands.. They have limitless opportunities and can have anything they want, and as a result, they have big dreams and work hard to achieve them.. But these two kinds of p...

Productivity is a concept that I heard a lot about and am very interested in.. In today’s day and age, we have a very limited amount of time on day to day basis, and we have a lot of jobs to get done.. Most of the time, we don’t plan stuff properly and then we miss targets, and deadlines and become miserable.. Productivity is the answer to all these.. Productivity means completing the stuff in less amount of time, with less amount of effort, and achieving good-quality results.. But the concept became very much overused in the internet influencer content, that it lost its own value.. People don’t take the concept of productivity very seriously now.. Some criticism of productivity is that people want to be like machines and work all the time and output maximum results, which can lead to poor mental health and lifestyle.. Although this is true, productivity actually means spending your time doing what you want to do.. It is not only about working and maximizing the results, rather prod...

Success.. What does it mean?? Getting good grades, having a nice job, house, and car?? It is the common definition of success is to have a lot of money and spend it buying a lot of stuff.. In the society we live in, most people have a mindset of money being the most important thing in life, yes it definitely is important.. But what is more important is that every people have different values, dreams, and expectations from their own life.. Not everyone wants to have a lot of money.. There are so many people who want to live a simple life, with less money but do what they want to do.. People watching them may say they are not happy, but that is not true.. As success depends on the person, and everyone has the opportunity to describe success for themselves.. Someone can want to become a painter and sell their painting in a shop and live a simple life, that is success for them.. If someone wants to open a bakery and bake a lot of cakes and cookies, that is a success for them.. Also if s...

Following your passion is what we hear a lot about.. In today's day and age, people are not very happy with the carrier they lead, but they are forced to do the same work to sustain a proper living.. But it is an encouragement that is given to kids nowadays to follow their passion and to live a quality life.. But the main problem is most of us don’t have a passion.. They don’t know what to be passionate about.. They don’t have many things they want to do or be, they just want a job and earn money, and live happily.. Passion is something which is seen as some important factor for every kid nowadays.. But when we don’t have passion what should we do?? I don’t think we should think too much about passion.. There are people in this world who are passionate about something they like or do or want to do, and they have specific goals in that field, and they try to achieve them, but it is alright to not have a passion.. Not everyone in this world has to have a passion.. People are per...

When we think about our life we always say what we want to become.. But we never think that why we want to become that person.. Sometimes we think when it is too late to think, as we have already progressed so much in the direction that it is very hard to take any other path.. We are born this way.. Some like to think about everything around them and others tend to not think and just do.. It mostly depends on the inherent nature o the person and also on the environment they live in.. Some kids go out with their family and have fun and do stuff with their friends that they don’t have enough time to think about things, and others may stay at home, read or think about many things.. Most of us are a mixture of both but in different proportions.. When we think about things around us, we try to find the meaning in everything that is here.. And sometimes in life, we come to experience the existential question what is the meaning of life?? When I came to the question I felt I thought someth...

We live in a very judgemental society.. We always want to discuss others in other words which mean gossiping and also we judge other people’s behaviour and choices of life that is if what they are doing is right or wrong.. We always think that there is a set of things which are right and a set of things which are wrong.. The rules vary in different societies.. But we never consider the individual thinking of a person when it comes to others.. There are people with a kind of mentality where they don’t have any individual; thoughts or goals, they do what everyone else does, but if anybody wants to do something new we go against them and judge them.. Personally, I think if we don’t say our thoughts to them it is okay, but when we start to talk about our judgement about them to their face is not right.. As we shouldn’t desire people to be out of total judgement, but until they keep it to themselves it is fine.. Through many ages, years and centuries, many judgements broke the morale of t...

  From the very beginning of our life, we are taught to not be selfish and that we should be selfless.. But why is this the case? Because we want to grow as a society and if we started to think only about ourselves, then we may not help other people grow in their respective areas of life, which may not lead to a very successful life for other people or as a society.. And also elderly people want to control us, and if we only think about ourselves, and not even our family, then it will not be that easy for them to control us.. But for me, I think it is very important o be selfish.. We should always think about ourselves first, then if we have enough time then we think about other people around us.. Because being selfless, is a choice, but being selfish is a must have. because we don’t be selfish in this day and age, then we must be left out of all the things happening around us.. We should think about ourselves first and make sure, what we want as a person, and what we want to achie...

In the history of mankind, there are many dark eras… We serviced all of those and strive for greatness.. Many of those dark eras were created by religion.. It was always a topic of debate among people.. People always fought and killed each other to make their religion established.. The geographical locations had their boundaries based on geographies and religion.. But within the last century, things changed a lot.. No, not all the fights related to religion stopped, but the situation got better a lot.. New experiments lead to a new understanding of the world, and the technological advancement was unbelievable.. The most advanced of technology has happened in the recent decade.. Which lead people to come out of their thought of religious superiority.. People stopped believing in the supernatural power as much as they did in the past.. There are many people who stopped believing in god.. Science became an undetectable part of human life.. But when science started to give explanations ...

Trying to find the meaning of life is unique to humans.. No other animal has this desire to find out the meaning of life.. Humans did most of their growth and advancement, regardless of technology, societal, and psychological mainly bcz of this desire.. We didn’t do anything to have a better life, rather we wanted to relax and have more time to think about our existence.. There are very few humans present in today’s world, who never thought about the meaning of life at least once in their lifetime.. People always try to explain things happening around them, but they use various methods to answer the questions to satisfy their needs to answer.. The several types of ways people give answers, i.e. science, religion, psychology, spirituality or any other subject taught to us in school all try to find the truth of the universe and how we came into being and where we are going.. But there is no absolute answer to this question for everyone.. People believe different things.. When we need t...

Money never buys happiness. It never did and it will never do that.. Doesn’t having enough money good?? And doesn’t it help to live a nice life.. It surely does.. But it will not be enough if you are unhappy.. As no money can buy happiness. People may earn a to of money by doing something they don’t want to do and still feel sad, as they don’t want to do the job.. it shouldn’t be the case.. Most of us, when trying to have a job, try to find one with more money, but we never consider our happiness, and how will we feel for the rest of our life doing the job, maybe for 30 to 40 years.. Do we want to feel bad or 30 years to earn a little more money?? We spend a big amount of time in our everyday life on our professional duties, do we really want to feel miserable doing the thing, that we are supposed to do every day for the rest of our life…?? People don’t think that.. Money becomes more important to them in every scenario.. There are two paths to solve this problem.. One path is mos...

Only 1% of people in this world are rich, and studying shows us that money always stays with that 1% of people from ever.. And we rest of the people of the world, need to think about our money and life all the time, to make a living.. We are having this generational burden from birth.. We tend to think that people need to feel bad and suffer to get enough money.. And life is hard.. This mentality of ours never lets us have enough for a living.. Whenever you say you are gonna earn money by having fun, people will judge you and think you are less serious and don't know the situation outside.. But this is not true, people can earn a taught living through working hard, but if you want to enjoy your life, you have to have fun.. Not because e you don’t know the truth.. Because studies have shown that if you want to be rich, you have to best in the field and produce stuff at a rate that no one can ever produce.. If you want to be the best and fast, then you must spend a lot of time and ...