How Negative Feelings And Emotions Can Help Us Grow
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Life can sometimes be hard and we go through life trying to make sense of life and negotiate with what is happening around us and make life a little better... But we stubble and we fall.. We go through many things happening with us... Trauma, accidents, blessings, opportunities, and pressure and problems... We come to the negative but necessary aspects of life... Depression, anxiety, trauma, fear, jealousy, and anger... We get scared of these things, and we try to figure these things out... We either try to find a solution for our not feeling good or we completely ignore it...
This is the way many of us live there lives... As focusing on the problems we can search for therapy and other processes with are clinical that can help us get out of the feelings of sadness or worthlessness, and we want to feel better... We go to psychologists, we try counseling, we do our homework, we journal every day, and we keep track of our life every day... We do all the things that we are told to do... And sometimes we get better... We get better with the emotions and the hollowness inside us and move on with life... But we still need to process things and work through this, as a lifetime goal as we may be prone to depression again, so we work things out every day...
Sometimes people cannot deal with their problems and rituals and practices don’t work for them so doctors give them medications and pills to take on a daily basis, and as a result, we feel better as these medicines numb us and our feelings, so we don’t feel anything... But as soon as we stop taking them we are back to square one... Then we must take the medications forever and increase the dosage as per professional advice...
These were the people of a type, and there are some other people.. Who live their life, ignoring their feelings and symptoms... These people ignore the things they feel and they feel these things every day and think there is no reason behind feelings and don’t dwell on them... They work like they always did and still they struggle but continue to ignore problems until they become too big for them to handle... That time comes when they cannot take it anymore and take various measures to stop feeling like that... That goes to the suicidal thoughts and all the negative self-harm thoughts, along with drugs and intoxications...
But most people nowadays, never take things into their own hands... There are many known and unknown scholars in the past and present who talked about all these feelings of depression and anxiety and emotions of fear anger and jealousy... They gave us many options to try to understand the cause of the problem and identify and solve it... if we don’t have enough resources for therapy or clinical advice, we can look after the suggestions of these scholars and psychologists, and philosophers than just ignoring our feelings...
Today we are gonna talk about what these people said about the feelings we feel all the time, the feelings of emptiness, worthlessness and trauma and anxiety, and depression...
The most important thing that we have to remember is that these feelings are not new to the human species... These feelings and internal problems were there with us from the beginning of civilization and we need to stop attributing these problems to our present-day modernization and work environment... We must always remember we live in the greatest of all the times that ever existed, and that is why we get to know about mental health most of us have resources of mental health close to us, which is definitely the result of globalization and growth of the society and human race as a whole, because in the past people didn’t even know these terms and the solutions, so there were not so many cases of mental health...
Philosophers and psychologists, when they talk about these feelings they must give us several ideas to work through... We can make a list of the suggestions they gave us to implement in our daily life and make it work for us...
Recognizing the problem- the first step to understanding and moving on with our life with the greatest potential is we have to recognize that we have a problem... We have to give ourselves permission to say that we are not feeling good or we feel hollow or worthless or sad... We have to accept our recurrent feelings every day and make a mental note to make us remember that we are not feeling okay and normal... This is the first step and if we don’t do that, there are no other ways that we can take the other steps in our life... Recognizing the problem is the first step to any kind of solution...
Understanding the problem- after accepting the problem we need to find out why we have the problem... Here most of us stop... Many people can identify their problem, but the second step is the scariest of all the steps and it is to accept why we are not feeling okay... Scholars collectively gave us the answer to this problem... They said, most humans feel any kind of negative feelings or emotions because they need to change something in their life... Something is not working in their life and they have to change the thing in their life to feel good... But thing is different for every individual and we have to make a thorough understanding of our life and figure out what isn't working for us and what we actually have to change…
Human needs- humans actually have several needs... Animals also have that, but human needs are different than animals... Maslow made a theory of needs... If we look at that, we can see that how needs are organized in our everyday life... Mostly all basic needs of our lives are met, if you read this article, that means you have food, shelter, clothes, education, and security so your basic needs are met... But on the higher level of needs, we have the most important need and that is self-realization… the most important and unique need for the human race is self-realization... Scholars said that we feel hollow and sad because we live like animals and fulfill our low level of needs but to reach our full human potential we need to become self-realized... Mostly if we are unhappy for a prolonged time that means we want to be self-realized, but we are not doing anything on that path which leads to frustration of the inner higher self and we feel bad and sad, angry and depressed…
Self-realization- self-realization is the process to reach the full human potential, which Nietzsche said as uber(super) man.. Every one of us has this feeling and need to become self-realized, and we need to reach the full potential of being a human... We want to be the best version of ourselves till the end of our life... We have an inner self, which scholars called as “higher self”, this inner self has the need to reach the highest potential and to test how much and what much we can do in this lifetime... And the process to reach that is called self-realization... So basically if we feel sad, that means we are doing enough things that we think we should do, or we are not reaching the potential that our inner higher self wants us to reach...
Problems will stay forever- we must remember that self-realization doesn’t mean that we will not feel sad or angry or jealous or anxious anymore..but it rather means these feelings will not bother us anymore... We will know to deal with these feelings on a regular basis... Living a human life and growing in our path in any shape or form will always result in some problems which will affect us emotionally and physically and mentally... We may feel feelings of sadness and bitterness still... But these things will not be everyday things, and we will know to control our feelings and work things out... Maslow explained that self-realization means, that we accept the feelings of sadness and negativity and we don’t get bothered by them, rather we work normally on our daily tasks and make things happen to reach the full human potential...
Human potential- what is human potential, is something we all dwell on... People ask us to follow our heart and soul and make something happen from that, which will lead us to fulfill the purpose of our lives... What is the purpose of our life, the only answer can be to reach the full human potential before death... People don’t take action but they say, they don’t have any passion or any interest in their life... But the truth is most of us don’t even try enough things in our lives to realize our passions... So to find out what we like we just need to try out a lot of stuff... Rather than thinking about what we may or may not like we have to work every day on anything we have the opportunity to do, as a result, we learn many skills and get acknowledgment of things that we can use later... Thus, we should try many new things regularly and learn these things as disciplined students, as they make us know who we truly are... We should have faith that we will stumble across the thing that we love and think of as a purpose of our life one day by following this path of learning everything and working diligently...
Death is better than misery- although this is not a step or process of self-realization this point is very important to remember, but most of us when they understand that they need to change something, stop it and continue living in misery as change is hard and it is really tough to remove bad habits and replace it with good habits... We need a lot amount of willpower to do that, so people stay in their comfort zones and don’t take any action and don’t make any moves so they stay the same and be the same... But scholars aid that death is better than living an unfulfilled life... When we don’t work for our dreams and growth that means we are dying a slow death... This is a path of decay and people may realize that at the end of their life when they will not have any option rather than accepting it with regrets of a lifetime...
So these are the things spoken by scholars and philosophers on how to use various emotional and mental negativity as a clue and hint of our life and life a fulfilled life... We don’t need to accept everything the scholars said, but rather we should try the process they asked us to follow and we can still continue the therapy and other clinical help... This may be the way to live a more healthy happy and fulfilled life...
Here I am adding the quotes from the scholars which you can copy and paste and read anytime you feel unmotivated to make a change... Have a nice day...
“The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.” (Henry David Thoreau, Walden)
“It seemed to [Jung] that the meaning of [neurotic] sufferings might consist in their compelling a man to come to terms with the foundations of his being and with the world, and thereby to gain a better knowledge of his limits and possibilities. . .Jung thus puts the emphasis on the prospective aspect, giving neurosis a positive meaning and not regarding it only as a burdensome illness. According to him, it can even act as a stimulus in the struggle for the development of the personality and be, paradoxically, a curative factor.” (Jolande Jacobi, The Way of Individuation)
“We may think there is a safe road. But that would be the road of death. Then nothing happens any longer – at any rate, not the right things. Anyone who takes the safe road is as good as dead.” (Carl Jung, Memories, Dreams, Reflections)
“If you plan on being anything less than you are capable of being, you will probably be unhappy all the days of your life.” (Abraham Maslow, Toward a Psychology of Being)
“Sow a thought and you reap an action; sow an act and you reap a habit; sow a habit and you reap a character; sow a character and you reap a destiny.” (Ralph Waldo Emerson)
“…realign your life toward getting done what reality sends that needs doing. In other words we advise you to focus more on purposeful behavior. Let the feelings take care of themselves. What I think you will find is that when you get good at doing what needs doing in your life, the feelings stop giving you such trouble. And even if your feelings become troublesome, when you are involved in constructive activity, they remain in perspective. Feelings cease to be the whole show.” (David Reynolds, A Handbook for Constructive Living)
“Self-actualizing does not mean a transcendence of all human problems. Conflict, anxiety, frustration, sadness, hurt, and guilt can all be found in healthy human beings.” (Abraham Maslow, Toward a Psychology of Being)
“Do the thing you fear and the death of fear is certain.” (Ralph Waldo Emerson)
“Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything—all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure—these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.” (Steve Jobs)
“Any obstruction of the natural processes of development. . .or getting stuck on a level unsuited to one’s age, takes its revenge, if not immediately, then later at the onset of the second half of life, in the form of serious crises, nervous breakdowns, and all manner of physical and psychic sufferings. Mostly they are accompanied by vague feelings of guilt, by tormenting pangs of conscience, often not understood, in face of which the individual is helpless. He knows he is not guilty of any bad deed, he has not given way to an illicit impulse, and yet he is plagued by uncertainty, discontent, despair, and above all by anxiety – a constant, indefinable anxiety. And in truth he must usually be pronounced “guilty”. His guilt does not lie in the fact that he has a neurosis, but in the fact that, knowing he has one, he does nothing to set about curing it.”(Jolande Jacobi, The Way of Individuation)
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