Adity Sanyal

Why habits are important and what we can do with habits? I often thought about it.. Although we all learned about habits from childhood I never used any of those in my life.. But now when I have read about habits a little bit, I came to know that habits are very important, even the most important deciding factor of our lives.. People are not born with the unmatched talent of greatness, but they created that talent.. If you are like me, you cant accept this statement totally, as I feel genes and luck is definitely a factor in winning anything or losing anything.. But it is true that people Who did great things were mostly not talented at all.. As if they were they didn’t have to work so much… We spend our lives thinking about doing something but we cannot do it, due to many reasons, but mostly they constitute of our excuses that we give ourselves to not work.. We always say about the achievement of others as they just did it and became a success, but we don’t talk about the hard work ...

In the two years of the covid 19 outbreak, I had so much time in hand, so I came across a lot of stuff which I didn’t know or find out about before.. One among them is enneagram.. I came to know about various personality types and the tests to find out about them.. Enneagram is one of the processes to know about our personality, and work stuff out with ourselves.. There are 9 types of personality in an enneagram.. But the most important factor is, that an enneagram doesn’t put you in only one type, it gives a type and other two personality traits you show, when you are triggered or pushed, we behave differently, it also explains that.. We also get two wings for each type, which explains our proper personality.. But the main important thing is, after all these, they give you 3 types of people in each type, as people carry and work for separate pursuit.. And hee lied that main importance of enneagram, as it gives us the motive why we work or do anything.. In this age and time, people ...

We humans, always want to belong.. We do everything other than survive ourselves, to belong to someone, or to some group.. Why this is the case?? I often thought about it, as whatever happens in this world, can somehow be related to the need to belong.. We work to earn money and we want to belong.. I always want a lot of people to be called mine.. I want that I can say these people as my people.. If we go the history, people moved around in groups, they belongs to each other.. Then the people fought for the kingdoms, to be the kings, desire is the same they wanted to call people their own.. Why do we want to belong so bad?? We being animals, we should only think about ourselves and live.. But also in animals, this is seen that they want to belong in a group.. I think this came from this need to survive the predators.. As if, we stay in a group, we will not be attacked, and not be hunted.. So get the feeling of protection from belonging to a group.. As if we stay alone, then we must...

Who am I?? When we ask ourselves this question the answer we get is our name and surname.. If we are future asked more information about ourself then we reply as to where we live and our nationality and parents name... But there are variations in the identities.. There are various kinds of identities in the society that is present.. As we all know to some degree that the various types we use in various situations.. But to have an identity we have to be born in a society, which will culture us to its norms and abstract beliefs, which will make us understand our identities.. These are to some degree most needed.. As we humans are only capable of imagination and only for that reason we can use various unknown sounds in languages, various even numerous languages... Geographical identity- This is the country or state or place we live in.. We can state the name of the city as Kolkata or the country like India as a symbol of our identity.. Language identity- We say what language or languag...

Friends are special to us.. We always say this thing.. But we never need to explain this to anyone, why do friends matter so much?? I guess this is because everybody knows why they are so important.. That is because we can share anything with them, about our personal lives, without thinking about it.. But it also implied one thing, that we can’t share everything with other people around us.. But why is this the case?? This refers to the situation where we hide stuff from our loved ones.. Although it seems cruel to say, this is one of the main important manners every people learn in part of their learning environment it to hide stuff from people.. We are taught from childhood that we shouldn’t lie to our parents or our loved ones, or to people in general, but the truth is that we must not always tell the truths, to the people around us.. As the people may think about us, we have different kinds of relationship with everyone around us.. I always thought to be true to the people, like ...

Love is one of the most if not the most talked about topics in the world, definitely after Nft, crypto, covid, racism, war, and capitalism…. Okay, maybe it is not that important.. But we are still gonna talk about it.. bcz why not?? Love is a controversial feeling, like so many people have said so much about love that I am still confused about what to feel… But we all have at least some person on this earth whom we love, it can be our parents, siblings, cousins, friends, relatives or anybody else.. We love them we know, don’t ask me how? It's just a default feeling.. But most often than not, we feel that we have an argument with our loved ones as they do something we don’t like.. My question is, isn’t it suppose to be the opposite?? Shouldn’t we support our loved ones regardless of what they do?? I have mixed opinions about this topic.. Firstly I thought people love us and rely on us, bcz they find a safe place with us, so we shouldn’t judge them and support their thinking and do...

I am not religious I am spiritual.. It is a very common saying.. More people are becoming spiritual nowadays.. But what is actually spirituality? And what is the difference between religious and spiritual… I don’t know.. It is true that we can find many dictionary terms and definitions to define these two words.. But with the more use of both terms nowadays, the division and the definition have changed a lot.. Religion has a religious book and a certain god and angels and when people follow the book they are called religious.. But when people deal with the spirit or the soul within the body, it is called spiritual.. Religion has a very clear definition, but spirituality nowadays has evolved a lot, the shamanic, and tribal practices are also considered in spirituality now.. But the problem is somewhere else, when we try to find the difference between the religion and spirituality, it is said that spiritual people believe the god is within us, religious people believe God is someone o...

We are an individual and we also belong to a group.. But the concept of individuality and group is a total opposite of each other.. When we say someone is very individualistic, it means they like to do things by themselves, and being in a group means working together with everyone helping each other, to grow together.. But if we think scientifically we can’t find out which one is most important.. Does individuality or the sense of group come first to our ancestors?? We don’t know.. All we know is that our ancestors use to travel in a group.. They built everything together, and not one person in the past created this civilisation we live in.. There are also contrary beliefs if we compare humans with other animals.. As other animals tend to live in a group and work together.. But some people think that human is a developed or civilised animals, so we definitely have many things in common with them and other people think that we are humans and we should not compare ourselves with lower ...

We all want to be happy more or less.. When I was a toddler, I went to school, and then I went to primary, school, secondary school, higher secondary school and then college and even university.. But at the beginning of this "educating a kid" process, I asked many people, why I need to go to school and study? They all answered, if I study I will get a job and I will be a pilot (don’t know what they had with a pilot), and then I will be happy.. But from that time only it didn’t seem right. Like if I get a job, then I have to work the whole day every weekday for the rest of my life.. How can this be a condition to be happy? I was studying to get high marks, it was like working on something and it didn’t seem fun to me.. When I asked this question to other people, they told me that I am lazy and that is why I am saying this thing.. So I stopped asking the question altogether.. In my life till now, I didn’t travel to a lot of places, I went to maybe 4 places for vacation, in ...

It is a long debate among people about the concept of equity and equality.. To know about this concept first we need to know about these topics separately.. What is equality? Equality is a system, where each and every person in the society is treated equally and is given equal opportunities… It is like in a class full of students, everybody will be taught the same thing, containing the same subjects, in the same duration, no favours will be given to anyone.. What is equity? Equity is the system, where every person is given favours based on their background and abilities.. Like in a class the students who are less gifted in understanding a subject are given more attention.. How do these work? From the beginning of the time, equality was not to be seen.. it is not natural law to have equality between people, or animals or in the natural world.. Equality means stability or statics, which is not very good for the growth of nature and the natural world.. Like in every environment cert...

It is a very bad feeling when we do something new or what we already know, and we feel like an imposter.. We feel like we are making stuff out.. Like me writing this blog feels like I am trying to make stuff up, which actually doesn’t matter to anyone or maybe somebody had said it before.. When I was doing my master's degree at the University of Calcutta, I joined late and other students have already done some classes… I took notes from other people and tried to cover those topics by myself, but every day when I went to the university, while I was entering through the gate of the university, I felt like an imposter, like I didn’t belong here and I don't deserve to be in this place.. I felt I was trying to pretend to something or someone that I am actually not, that I don’t have the talent or quality needed to be here.. I thought about this a lot, but I came to the conclusion that we are all imposters.. Every day when we wake up we have certain things to do every day, and we pro...

Anxiety? Every one of us faced this situation at one time or another... We feel anxious before some big thing… I myself had anxiety for quite some years now... Although I didn’t have it from birth I developed it in my late teens… I didn’t know I had anxiety, it was like a fancy word that can only be used by the rich people of the first world. For as long as I can remember my childhood was worry-free... And my mom was even sad that I don’t get nervous or think about the future ever... She thought I have a lack of planning or dreams for the future… Although I accept that it was quite true, I was not as aimless as she thought of me... It is understandable, as moms are always like this, they make the habits of their children sound as big as a universe… But sometimes I ask myself, why I got anxiety? Did I get to know the reality of the outside world and got scared? Did I think I can’t do well by myself and I got anxiety? But when I think about it, something different comes up… Society teach...

“Be Authentic” is one of the biggest pieces of advice that we get in today’s world. Sometimes I think about what it actually means to be authentic? What is actually authentic?? Whenever I try creating something like drawing a portrait or painting scenery, writing a poem or writing this blog post, I always think that I need to be authentic... But is there anything called authentic? Me, as a person, I can write whatever I am feeling like writing. like this blog post, I am writing without any idea what I am going to write but still, there are some things that are already in my mind, when I think about authenticity, so doesn’t that mean that my preconceived notion about authenticity is not authentic.? There are two kinds of things in this world, like opposites, that are black and white, right and wrong, right or left. these are called Binary Opposition.. These things are always together but as opposites... It is funny that we need to put two opposite things together to make the opposite of...